But as simple as this sounds, some people just don't seem to get it.
Despite not liking or having feelings for the person, some choose to accept anyway, which I think is absolutely ridiculous and stupid.
Their " reasons " are that they want to give the person a chance, they want to make themselves like the person back as time goes by, or worse, they DO NOT KNOW HOW TO REJECT.
I found that the last reason is more common among girls. Girls, by nature, are more sensitive, whereas guys generally are more direct. Being sensitive, girls will start thinking things like, what if I hurt his feelings if I reject him? What if I would feel bad?
You're afraid that you'll appear mean and all...
You're afraid that you'll appear mean and all...
...right?
If you have this problem, then I have only one solution for you. You got to learn how to be honest and insensitive at times. You got to be crystal-clear, as said by this guy here.
But no matter what reasons you might have, you have to remember this - A relationship is a two-way thing. In order for it to work, both parties feel the same way towards one another. You can't have one party putting in lots of effort, convinced that the other party loves him/her back, while the other " putting up a show " and pretending that he/she loves his/her partner.
This kind of one-sided relationship will not last long and in the end, when the devoted party finds out the truth, he's going to be hurt even more than if you had rejected him in the first place.
Also, as selfish as it may sound, a relationship is also about YOU having a good time, and actually being happy in the relationship. If you're in a relationship just to please and satisfy the other person, then I can guarantee you that one day, you're going to feel trapped, confined and might even cheat.
So I think the point I'm trying to get at is that we should not deceive ourselves into thinking that we like an individual, when we actually DON'T. You are not only deceiving yourself, but also the other party as well.
I'm not a certified relationship adviser, I'm just saying all these from my own and others' experiences.
But no matter what reasons you might have, you have to remember this - A relationship is a two-way thing. In order for it to work, both parties feel the same way towards one another. You can't have one party putting in lots of effort, convinced that the other party loves him/her back, while the other " putting up a show " and pretending that he/she loves his/her partner.
This kind of one-sided relationship will not last long and in the end, when the devoted party finds out the truth, he's going to be hurt even more than if you had rejected him in the first place.
Also, as selfish as it may sound, a relationship is also about YOU having a good time, and actually being happy in the relationship. If you're in a relationship just to please and satisfy the other person, then I can guarantee you that one day, you're going to feel trapped, confined and might even cheat.
So I think the point I'm trying to get at is that we should not deceive ourselves into thinking that we like an individual, when we actually DON'T. You are not only deceiving yourself, but also the other party as well.
I'm not a certified relationship adviser, I'm just saying all these from my own and others' experiences.
