Sunday, March 16, 2014

Rebellious Years

Almost every normal teenager would go through rebellious years. It's part of growing up and natural 

It's just a period of time whereby we are already a young adult and we feel the need to break off from the confinements and conformations of society. We feel the need to be free, to be the true ruler of our own lives and not having to follow rules.

I started going through my rebellious years in Primary 6 when I started to have my own saying in life and rebelled a little against my parents and the school. I remember in Primary 6, somehow I was being very disruptive in class, making a fool of myself. I would say stupid shit in the middle of class which I assumed was amusing. 

My form teacher was really angered and annoyed by my actions in class. I was lectured and scolded on a regular basis but I would just say, " okay... okaay... " while showing a stupid grin of mine. 

As time goes by, I started to be more matured and I no longer behave like that. If I had a time machine I would definitely go back in time and slap myself in the face, SERIOUSLY -.- 

I think the reason behind the development of rebellious years is because as a kid, we obediently followed our parents' and the school rules, without questioning why things were as such, because we feel that we could entrust our lives in their hands. 


But as we grow older and find out more about ourselves and society, we feel the need to control our lives ourselves, and thus the problem of " rebellious teenagers " arises. 






I remember when I was a child my parents would dress me up and I would wear any clothes they bought me. But as I got older I came to a sad realisation that they dressed me LIKE CRAP. 

So right now I would pick my own clothing... Not gonna trust them on fashion anymore..

Most rebellions may just be simple acts of disobedience, but if a person rebels to the extent that he does criminal activities, such as taking drugs, drinking underage, then the rebellion needs to be controlled. Is it okay? OF COURSE IT'S NOT OKAY. 

Many people believe that these kids have to be punished severely in order for them to mature and get them to realise that what they're doing is wrong and could endanger themselves. 

But I think that punishment may be able to control them temporarily, but it doesn't entirely solve the problem. 

Most of these kids are troubled, either to find a belonging in society, or going through family issues. Hence they end up turning to joining gangs, smoking, etc. 

I know because I used to be troubled as well. I was struggling to fit in from Primary 6 to Secondary 1. I had lots of insecurities and honestly I did fight. But I managed to finally fit into groups of friends which I can relate to so I guess that saved me ^^

In order to solve this problem, I believe that we need to find ways to help them with their struggles. I heard an analogy from a teacher of mine which says if you have a hole in your bag, you need to fix the hole before trying to store anything inside it. You need to solve the problem from its root. 




Most of you should be familiar with this short film. It was swirling all over the local Television about a year ago ( If I'm not wrong ) and it shows that what changed Glenn was not the punishments he received, but the encouragement and dedication of Mr Kumar to help him get through his teenage struggles. 




Mr Kumar knew he would be a great man, and he was right :) 




I really like watching this series on Youtube called " World's strictest parents ". It's a show where troubled and rebellious teens would leave their homes and live with strict parents in another country. 

Here's one of the episodes that I really like



They say that teenage years are the best years of your life, and it is. But I think there are also obstacles that you have to go through as a teenager and it's a phase that would be very impactful to your life. I know sometimes parents just don't understand us, but they are still your parents who want the best for you, don't forget that fact. 













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