Different Parenting Styles ( My Thoughts )

The other day during English class, our teacher showed us a video about four different parenting styles and how It affects the children's behaviors. 

Here are brief explanations of the four types of parenting styles: 

1) Authoritarian- These type of parents are strict and highly demanding. They have high expectations and when the expectations aren't met, you're dead. Nothing else to say, you're basically, dead. These parents do not show much concern to their children and are not really willing to listen to how their children feel and went through. Children of these type of parents tend to follow rules and do well in school but have low self esteem. 

2) Authoritative- Like Authoritarian parents, these type of parents have high expectations of their kids and set rigid boundaries. But unlike the Authoritarian parents, these type of parents are willing to show concern and to listen to how their children feel and went through. Also, when their expectations aren't met, you WON'T be dead ( Thank god... :3 ). Instead of punishing their children, they tend to listen to the problems that their children are facing and actually try to help their children to achieve the expectations. They are simply democratic. Children of these type of parents tend to do well in school and have high self esteem. 

3) Indulgent- These type of parents display excessive concerns and love for their children. They gave in easily to their children's desires and tend to spoil their children. This is because children of these type of parents get what they want all the time. These type of parents have low expectations for their children. Children of these type of parents tend to be selfish and aggressive. 

4) Neglecting- These type of parents are absent in their children's day to day life most of the time. They have low expectations of their kids and show no concern for them. Children of these type of parents tend to have bad behaviors in school as they yearn for attention and have low self esteem. 

So, I hope that that's not too much for you to absorb... Kay so moving on to " My Thoughts " .... 

I think that Authoritative parenting style is the best one out of the four and that's probably the parenting style that I want to use when I become a parent in the future. I want to be friends with my children but I also need to set ground rules and regulations. If they do something wrong, I need to explain to them that it is wrong and they have to face the consequences. 

Basically, If you're controlling without building a relationship with your children and showing your love, they will tend to rebel as they don't feel any warmth in the family at all. However If you give in to every of your children's demands then your children will be spoilt. Don't be neglecting, that's mean. Children will feel that like orphans. They have parents, but where are they? They're always absent.. 

Anyway, just to share with you guys on the type of parents I have, well my mum is authoritative and my dad is kinda Indulgent. When I do something wrong, my mum will scold me but also explain why my actions are wrong. For my dad, well, anything goes. He doesn't even care if I study for my exams or not. He say, " If you wanna study, good. If not, that's your business. " 

I think my dad feels that I am mature enough to make the right decisions on my own. He was actually authoritarian when I was young. He would cane me when I did something wrong, but he no longer does that as I grew older. My mum thinks that I still need to be guided as I am still a " child " in her eyes, HAHA XD. Well that's okay, I still do need guidance.